I have this friend, who you'll probably recognize, named Anthony who is in this situation right now. So, Anthony really likes this girl named Felicity. From what I have heard Felicity sounds like a great girl, there’s just one problem… her mom finds it weird that most of Anthony’s friends are girls. Now, he’s already told me that there is no way that he is going to lose me as a friend, but this whole situation has made me wonder why there is such a problem with the opposite sex being friends. I know that in most films the best friend usually ends up with the girl, or guy, but that doesn’t always have to be true.
I have mostly guy friends. They are all pretty great looking, making me one lucky girl ;), but that does not mean that I want to go out with all of them. I think that there is a time when you have a crush on your friend, but then you move on. Anthony and I used to have a crush on one another, but they occurred at different times and in the end we just laughed them off.
If one of my friends starts to date a girl and ends our friendship because of her, you better believe that I'd be on the next flight over to him to give him a piece of my mind. I have already warned Anthony about what I would do, which didn't scare him, but he still got the message.
I think that if a friend deserts you because they got into a relationship, then they aren’t really your friend. No friend should leave another behind, its like a special rule that you must follow. :P Friends should be for life and should always have your back. Just because one of them gets a girlfriend or a boyfriend doesn’t mean that they can ditch you to spend loads of time with their new love.
There’s another question to consider, what happens when one of your friends get married? Many people find it inappropriate when a married man or woman spends time with a friend of the opposite sex alone. At this, I have to disagree. See, it's kind of the same concept for a friend going into a relationship, there needs to be a balance. Once someone is married they do have to spend more time creating a family but a couple can’t live with just each other. They need to be surrounded by friends.
Married people should still be able to hang out with old friends. I guess most of the time it’ll be with a group of people, but there will be an occasion where one of you needs some quality time alone to talk about what’s going on in each other’s lives.
Whenever you have a problem who do you run to first? Personally, I write to Anthony or if he’s not available I ask Isabella. Having Anthony to help me with lets say guy problems is great because he talks from a guy’s perspective. When we both get married, I am sure we’re going to keep calling each other up to ask for advice when one of us doesn’t know what we have done wrong.
In conclusion, I believe that girls can be best friends with guys and not have a romantic relationship with them. I know for a fact that I could never marry Anthony so there’s no attraction and same thing with my other friends. People should stop thinking about best friends falling in love because that can plant fake feelings into other’s minds.